You can’t act like it is business as usual. Meeting someone online and having virtual coffee dates might not be what we are used to doing. This is our temporary normal, even if it may last for several more months. So go ahead and decide what you expect this experience to be for you and honor your decisions! Would you instead keep it via text and a phone call before you meet with someone via video call? When you meet them via video call, which room would you like to be in? Yes, we discussed using a room or location as a source of comfort, but we also need to consider privacy. Our homes are often private places, and we don’t invite someone over until we feel comfortable. If you decide to have a video date with someone, that person will have a glimpse of your house; they might see more than you want them to if you happen to sit on the couch or near a window with landmarks in the background. You might also ask yourself, “When will I feel ready to meet him/her/them at a park or for a hike?” This doesn’t mean that you have to decide when you’ll be comfortable, and then you aren’t allowed to change your mind. It means that you are conscious of your comfort as you progress in this venture.
Every day is a new experience during this pandemic. Being flexible and being present may be your best shot at enjoying this journey. Brainstorming and considering obstacles and boundaries is important to work to do, but holding on to ideas that you find aren’t serving you won’t be beneficial. Open your mind to the idea that your partner could be someone or somewhere you never expected! With several apps allowing their version of a travel mode, you have the potential to meet people outside of your city or even your state. Options are limitless. Let go of the pressure that it has to be perfect. Have compassion for yourself and others; this is a stressful time for many people, and we all need a little bit of grace. Meet yourself where you are and see where this journey takes you.
Love is one of the foundational components of life that we humans need, as important as air, food, water, or shelter.
If you have decided that dating is a top priority for you, no person nor global emergency can or should tell you any different
While there are many different types and expressions of love, it is entirely valid to seek and nurture romantic love as a part of a satisfying life experience. Approach your search as an adventure to find something that adds value to your life and use all of the online connection modes to your advantage!
Here at Embracing You Therapy Group , we invite you to explore with us how life would be different if you had more control over your thoughts and emotions, and we invite you to consider that it is possible to accept things just as they are, EMBRACING imperfections to create a gentler place for CALM in your life.
Let’s learn what drives your unique perspective on anxiety and stress, and then let’s find the tools-your unique tools-that help you respond to life in a healthy, calm way.
Menije and Cindy Sayani , AMFT offer virtual therapy to treat mental health concerns include Anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, phobias, and stress; Mood disorders including depression; Relationship issues, both in couples therapy and with individual clients; Perinatal mental health issues such as postpartum depression or anxiety
Being forced to have video dates might be a small boost from the universe for people who have social anxiety. You can set your camera up in such a way that you can secretly wear your cozy pajama bottoms! You can sit in a comfy chair or your bed. You can even control the lighting; you can light your favorite candle, you can have your favorite coffee mug in hand. All of these things can help to create a much more inviting and reassuring mood than venturing out in public, perhaps to somewhere you’ve never been before and meeting a total stranger.
If there is anything the pandemic has changed, it is how our day-to-day lives are organized. Whether it’s the ongoing mental note to always have a clean mask on hand when out in public; or the toll it can take on our energy to be vigilant about keeping our distance from others; or how many stops we can make when running errands now that many businesses limit the number of customers allowed inside at a time. Some of us may have been laid off from one job that covered our expenses and is now juggling three. Some of us are single parents who are now working from home while expected to educate our children.
It is easy to feel discouraged and have urges to postpone dating. But at the time of writing this blog, the pandemic has been going on for over ten months here in Los Angeles. With the numbers high, it doesn’t look like it will be over soon. Reframe dating during the pandemic as a new opportunity to clarify what you are looking for, establish your boundaries, use your imagination, and respect your time and needs. Keep a journal or a note on your phone of what you are seeking, what you want to make sure you communicate, and why you know you deserve a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Recruit a friend or family member to encourage you when you are wavering or struggling. Nurture your relationship with yourself, and watch how that frees in your relationships with others.